“The man is the head of the woman and the home.”

This phrase is a familiar refrain, often delivered with divine finality at Christian weddings. Of course, the idea is not new for a couple—it has been absorbed over years of teaching and reinforced through sermons, family norms, and church culture. But what if this foundational message is, at best, incomplete—or at worst, a misreading? The dominant framework for Christian marriage rests heavily on the writings of the Apostle Paul, whose epistles are frequently cited as the authoritative blueprint for household structure. But have we engaged his letters carefully, contextually, and with the interpretive humility they demand? Since so much weight is placed on Paul’s words, it is only fitting to begin where so many start and end—with Paul. Consider the following:

Galatians 3:27-29 ESV
[27] For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. [28] There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. [29] And if you are Christ’s, then you are Abraham’s offspring, heirs according to promise.

It is vital to begin with why Paul wrote the letter to the Galatians. Galatia was a Roman province in central Asia Minor, today’s central Turkey. Paul took the message about Jesus to this area and helped establish the church during his three missionary journeys. Some years later, some “agitators” – likely Jewish Christians – began to teach the Galatians that they must do more to inherit the promise. In other words, these agitators claimed that Jesus was not enough. They wanted the Gentile Galatians to embrace some aspects of Jewish mysticism involving the observance of special days (4:10), circumcision (5:2), and general Torah-observing (5:4). None of these things is wrong per se – after all, the church today continues to do them selectively: we mark Easter and Christmas, boys get circumcised, and we select what portions of Torah we like. The problem was doing them because they believed they would add to what Jesus had done and complete their redemption.